My Approach

Let me tell you about a specific kind of exhausting.

You're holding on to two things at once, they're contradicting each other, and nobody else seems to notice or even get it. You're confident and completely falling apart. You're grateful and kind of miserable. You're doing everything right and somehow still feel like you're getting it all wrong.

That tension you've been carrying around like it's a character flaw? It's not. It's actually just the human condition with the volume turned way tf up. In DBT, we call that a dialectic.

It's the idea that two opposing things can be true at the same time — not because you're confused or broken, but because life can be cuckoo bananas and your nervous system is just trying to keep up. My work is rooted in this framework because I believe it's the most honest thing I can offer you — the permission to stop choosing between versions of yourself and start embracing them all at once.

We're not here to fix the contradiction. We're here to make peace with it.

That means we work in the space between accepting yourself exactly as you are right now and becoming who you want to be. Not one or the other. Not "love yourself" as a replacement for growth, or "keep improving" as a reason to withhold kindness from yourself in the meantime. Both. Always both.

Instead of black and white, we find the colorful middle. Your truth, even the parts that don't make sense next to each other yet.

If you've ever felt like you're "too much" and "not enough" in the same breath — hi. This space is for you and I’m so happy you’ve made it to my corner of the internet. 🫶

Why Beanstalk Therapy?

I’ll be so real. My therapy journey was a complicated one. I had difficulty relating to providers. They were either too serious, or I could not take them seriously — oscillating between scrubs and daisy chains.

The work often felt aimless because the goals we set did not truly align with who I was as a person. I was working towards who I thought I should be rather than coming home to who I was all along. Eventually, I was asked who/how I would choose to be in the world with no limitations or obstacles. I didn’t want to be any of the narratives I was being fed. I didn’t want to be “healed” or “connected to source” or “grounded.”

I WANTED TO BE HOT

Not that kind of hot (okay, well, maybe that kind of hot too), but mostly as a state of mind. The hot girl mind is not plagued by self-doubt or limiting beliefs, nor does it shrink to become palatable. It’s giving regulated, self-assured, and magnetic — not to mention, a little goofy which I realized was the missing factor contributing to my lack of buy-in. Everything was SO SERIOUS (and lowkey intimidating), but things don’t always have to be that deep (yes, even in therapy).

So as a Home Goods sign (probably) once said — be the change you wish to see in the world. I needed a therapist who would take my whole personality and run with it, so I became her instead. I built a practice that holds the dialectic of being both deeply unserious and deeply sincere. Where we crack funny jokes about traditionally unfunny topics. Where your situationship rant is not a detour from the work. It is the work. Where we build goals around your definition of hot and becoming the hottest version of you.

The one that's been waiting.

That's what I built this for. That's what I show up for every day, and maybe it’s what you've been looking for too. 💖